Have you ever spent the day cleaning your house, and just when you’re ready to step back and admire all of your hard work, you watch one of your kids spill their glass of milk all over the floor? Or had a night when your child wakes you up a hundred times because they want you to put them back to bed? Those times make me want to pull my hair out! I get so frustrated and my response tends to be more childish than adult like.
I could fill up an entire blog post with situations like these and I’m sure you could help with that post as well…but that’s neither here nor there. I know these are petty issues, with petty responses, but these are the moments when grace is so desperately needed. These are the moments when you think you can react the way you are “suppose to” all on your own. Out of all of the areas of Grace that I have talked about over the past couple of weeks, grace for the moment is the area I struggle with the most.
Hindsight is 20/20, so of course, I can see the areas where grace was needed, but frankly, I’m tired of that perspective, I want to give grace while I’m in the moment. I want to rise above the emotions and the thick of the moment and have insight to remember that I’m not perfect either and that I have stood in the exact same pair of shoes. I want my response to be timely, appropriate and grace-filled.
Merriam-Webster’s defines grace as a way of moving that is smooth and attractive (ex. a ballerina) , a way that’s not stiff or awkward, to be controlled or polite, to present a way of behaving, a virtue of God, divine assistance. I love this! Because, grace is not just a movement or just a virtue of God, it is all of those things.
Grace is moving though circumstances smoothly with God’s assistance. Grace is being filled with God’s virtue so that we can respond the way he does. Grace is also giving yourself some slack for when you do mess up and have a stiff response.
Now, you may be thinking, “I’ve tried keeping myself composed during conflict, I just can’t help it, I blow my top every time!” or “It’s just not possible to give grace in the moment, I’m not God!” and I will respond with, “Your right.” You cannot give grace in the moment — God does.
We were never meant to be the absolute source of the grace we need to give. Grace does not come from us, it flows thru us.
No, I’m not a grace expert and yes, I do make mistakes in giving grace…a lot. But, I could never give grace at the right time or in the right circumstances without God’s help and his leading. I cling to the fact that He is a very present help, in the time of need! Psalms 46:1 His grace, his love, his wisdom, his discernment is always present.
I want to close with this, in the song Amazing Grace, John Newton writes:
Amazing grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me, I once was lost but now I’m found, was blind but now I see…
God gives us this spiritual Visine called Grace to help us see people, circumstances and ourselves like he does — that is amazing!
Until next time, be blessed…
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