How Do We End Up Becoming The Person We Never Wanted To Be?

Have you ever had those moments where you are trying so hard to be one thing but you end up being the thing you don’t want to be? For example, you’ve always said you never wanted to be the parent who yelled at their kids, yet you find yourself yelling at your kids. Or you were never going to be that controlling spouse, yet you find yourself controlling your spouse. Ugh! That kind of thing drives me crazy!


Why do we end up becoming the thing we are trying so hard not to become?  Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as a man thinks in his heart, so he is.” Could it be that we become what we meditate on?

My husband has been reading this great book called The Supernatural Ways of Royalty by Kris Vallotton & Bill Johnson (I have been taking his book and reading it when it’s not in his hands). So a few days ago I read a part where Kris Vallotton said this…

We tend to reproduce what we feast our thoughts upon. What I am realizing about many of us is that we spend much of our lives reacting to what we don’t want to be instead of responding to the call of God on our lives. We waste a lot of energy trying not to be something. In order to not be something, I have to keep it in front of me so I can avoid it. The crazy thing is that I reproduce what I imagine. 

That’s why God commanded Joshua to meditate on His word day and night so that he would be careful to do according to what it said. If Joshua would have just focused on not making the same mistakes as the previous generation of Israelites he probably would have ended up making the same mistakes? But Joshua didn’t, He listened to God. Joshua focused and meditated on God’s call and God’s leading. Joshua focused on God’s perspective rather than the mistakes of the past. Joshua focused on the identity that God had given him.

May you and I no longer focus on what we don’t want to become but instead focus on who God says we are to become. Because here is a little hint, God intimately knows you and if you let Him, He will empower you to become who He has created you to be.

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