If I Had Known Then What I Know Now

“If I had known then what I know now…” is a famous phrase I remember hearing growing up and on into my adult years. The Christian band Mercy Me even has a song called Dear Younger Me with the same theme.

So naturally, I’ve been thinking about all of the things I wish I could go back and tell the younger me; some words of wisdom and insight, along with some humor and grace.

Wisdom is learned through living life and if we would finely tune our ears to hear it, how different would we be?

Yet wisdom’s song is not always heard in the halls of higher learning. But in the hustle and bustle of everyday life it’s lyrics can always be heard above the din of the crowd. Proverbs 1:21 The Passion Translation

I would tell the 16 year old me, to not let anyone else define you. The one who created you and knows you, identifies you. I would tell her that God has the final word, so what He says is pure is pure indeed.

I would tell the 18 year old me that her significance is found in God.

I would tell the 20 year old me, that she dosesn’t have to earn God’s love, He just loves you because He does!

I would tell the 22 year old me to forgive quickly. Unforgiveness and bitterness only hurts you. By choosing to forgive those who’ve hurt you is the doorway to healing. And please forgive yourself!

I would tell the 26 year old me to stop seeking others approval! Let your husband be himself and stop trying force him into the mold you have constructed for him. Let God do the molding and you just choose to love him.

I would tell the 28 year old me that it’s okay to put your baby down. If they are already crying when you are holding them, then there is noting wrong with setting them down in their bed and going outside for a fresh breath of air! Their gonna keep crying, but you can stay sane!

I would tell the 30 year old me to let your kids be kids. Enjoy every moment you have with them. Your not missing life because your a stay at home mom. Your on the front row of your life and that’s the best place to be. Don’t compare your life to others it not only distract you, but it devalues your own life. Choose to love your life.

I would tell the 34 year old me to treasure the uniqueness of each of your relationships and friendships. Don’t compare them, just see the value in each relationship. Seek out life — giving relationships and be life — giving to others. Take time to take care of yourself and I’m not just talking about exercising!

I would tell the 36 year old me to do a lot more listening. To stand on the word God has given you and to not let anyone look down on you because of your age or skill level. Have more fun and continue to laugh at yourself. You don’t have to be so serious, enjoy the moments you have. Know that God and only God calls out your identity.

Then I would hope that she would actually have the ears to listen, and the humility to hold dear these words of wisdom.


Over the month of July we are going to be hearing other words of wisdom from some guest bloggers. But I wan’t to hear some of yours. Would you do me a favor? Will you fill out the end of this sentence for me? “If I could have known then what I know now…”

You have learned some lessons that the rest of us need to learn. Would you be willing to share your words of wisdom with us?

If you could please write your words of wisdom in the comments below.

Be Blessed ~ Jessica










  1. I would tell myself that my worth is found in Jesus. That life is really about discovering who Jesus is and becoming more like Him. Everything else is fleeting. Jesus is eternal.

  2. The Man!

    I would tell my self just because you made a mistake,God still can use you!

    You are going to marry a smoking hot wife don’t worry about it!

  3. Ann Moyer

    If I could have known then what I know now… I would have forgiven myself for all the things God forgave me for when Jesus died for me… I would have stressed less over the spilled milk, and in doing so, would have relieved some of the stress on my kids… I would have told the kids how proud of them I was more often… I would have spent less time harping at my husband and more time praying for him… I would have worried less and trusted the Lord more… I could go on and on! At 59, I am still a work in progress, but I “get” a lot more of life, and I walk more closely through life with the Lord than I did at other times earlier in life. This is one of the best posts you have ever written, Jess! I’m so proud of you!

    • Jessica Wright

      Wow thank you Ann!! Thank you not only for your words of encouragement but for your precious words of wisdom! They are a treasure to me! Thank you for being transparent and being brave enough to live life! I love you!

  4. Ann Moyer

    Ok… “The Man” reminded me of another one! Lol! Just because I made mistakes, God can still use me! In fact, I am of greater use BECAUSE of those mistakes! That one is huge!

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