I remember sitting between my parents one Sunday afternoon, sobbing, as they tried to console my crushed 9 year old heart. My best friend had just told me, after church, that she no longer wanted to be my friend, she said that “I wasn’t good enough or popular enough.” I didn’t know what to call the feelings going on inside of my heart, but I knew they hurt.
Rejection is bitter.
We’ve all dealt with rejection at some point in our lives, whether it was a divorce, a denied loan application, a negative pregnancy test…the list could go on for days. Nobody likes the bitter taste of rejection, and we all try to avoid it, but it’s bound to happen at some point.
It’s not if you go thru rejection, but it’s what you do with rejection that effects you.
Some of us can get over rejection fairly well, like water on a ducks back, while the rest of us let rejection wreck our plans and dreams. We let rejection shove us to the sidelines telling us we are unqualified, lacking and that we are not who we thought we were.
But rejection at it’s core, is just another scheme of Satan. It is just another way to stir up shame, insecurities, malice, and division.
So, how do move past rejection and get over it?
Last week, I shared that as Jesus was commissioning his 12 disciples he told them to shake the dust off of their feet if anyone rejected their message, so it wouldn’t defile them.
Again, in Luke 10:16, he tells his disciples,
…If they reject you, they’re rejecting Me. And if they reject Me, they’re rejecting the One who sent Me.
If anyone understood rejection, it was Jesus. He was rejected in his hometown, rejected by the Pharisees and Sadducees, he was even rejected by most of the Jewish people he came to save. Jesus didn’t only understand rejection, he knew its aftereffects.
Jesus didn’t want his disciples to get off course because of any rejection they would face. So he speaks truth to that rejection and gives them a birds eye view of what is really going on, “It’s not you they are rejecting, but me.”
So how do we starting shaking this junk off? We can start by putting 2 Corinthians 10:5 into action:
We capture like prisoners of war, every thought, and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.
Capture like prisoners, all of the thoughts and feelings that come along with it rejection, bind them up and make them obey God’s word. Don’t give those thoughts any more leeway, make them submit. Speak the truth of who God says you are to all of the thoughts and lies that come along with rejection.
God’s word (the bible) is truth. And if you aren’t familiar with any truths, as to who you are in him, here are a few examples to get you started: you are chosen, you are a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9), you are whole and complete(1 Thess. 5:23), you’re a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17), you’re loved (John 3:16), you’re approved (1 Thess. 2:4), you’re valuable, you’re the joy set before Christ (Hebrews 12:2).
This practice of taking thoughts captive and making them obey Christ is a daily task for me. The transformation does not happen over night, it’s a process. But, if you will submit your mind to letting God tell you who you are in him, and let him transform the way you think, you will be able to walk in your Identity in Christ and see rejection for what it is, so you can shake it off.
With that said, there are some wounds from rejection that run deep, for those I highly recommend that you participate in some form of christian counseling or inner healing sessions, also called Theophostics (a ministry of helping emotionally wounded people to acknowledge and identify the true source of their inner emotional pain and find lasting peace by receiving personalized truth directly from the Lord).
I would love to hear your comments on this topic of rejection. Do you have any other helpful tips for dealing with rejection that you can share? How have you been able to shake off the effects of rejection?
Also, if you missed part 1 Shake It Off: Getting over rejection then click on the link to read.