Do you remember those childhood days on the playground when teams needed to be formed for a game? The team captains would be selected and then the captains would begin to choose their team, one-by-one. Usually their best friends, or the most athletic or talented kids were amongst the first to be selected, which left everyone else just wondering who would choose them. Then there was the fight to not be the last one picked or placed by default on a team. Kids would begin to advertise their strengths and assets as a prospective team member so they wouldn’t be the one that the rest of the team unanimously groaned about getting. Do you remember those days?
Whether you were the one who was the captain or the last one picked or somewhere in-between the truth of the matter is that we’ve all dealt with the same issue, not wanting to be insignificant. We wanted others to see us as a useful, valuable asset, but at some point we all get picked over. Whether it was in a marriage, a friendship, a job or a position we thought we were perfect for, we’ve all been tempted to base our core worth and core value on our outside circumstances.
I’ve been guilty of gauging my own worth and significance on outside circumstances like what I do for a job, or where I live or how educated I am.
Basing our significance on outside circumstances sounds like this, “If I’d been a better parent my kids wouldn’t have chosen to do…” or, “If I’d been a better husband she wouldn’t have left me for him.” Or how about these, “If I had more to offer, I would have been chosen for that position…” or “If I was more attractive or more outgoing then someone would notice me.” And, “I don’t know anything, I didn’t even graduate from high school” or “I’m just a stay-at-home mom, what could I do…”
The feeling of insignificance has many faces, but I wanted to share with you a truth that God has spoken over me that I think will help you.
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9 (ESV)
You have been chosen! You have been hand picked by God as his own possession. He didn’t get you by default, he picked you! His name and nature, his character is the God who sees you (Gen. 16:13-14)!
Your circumstances may have overlooked you, but the God of creation has never taken his eyes off of you! He has not forgotten about you, in fact you really are unforgettable.
It doesn’t matter where you are, what you do, or what you’ve done, you are significant to God. From the prostitute to the president, the homeless to the prominent businessman, he knows us all, and loves each of us with a limitless love.
All those other thoughts that tell you that your unworthy, unimportant or insignificant are all lies that pull you away from the heart of God.
But the problem is we will never see ourselves as valuable and significant until we align our thoughts with God’s truth. You and I have to take what God’s thoughts are towards us and make them our own. Romans 12:2 encourages us to be inwardly transformed by changing the way we think. The first place we could start is changing the way we think about God and ourselves.
But we can’t just try to memorize scripture or tell ourselves were awesome everyday, we have to uproot the lies. For every thought you have has a root, it starts somewhere. Just like in gardening, it’s better to uproot the weeds rather than mowing over them. Go to the root. Ask God which thoughts have been destructive to your core value. Once he reveals them, then ask him what the truth is. God can’t lie, so you know what he says is the truth. And he loves to speak truth over you!
Once he shows you that truth, then you have a choice to make. You can either uproot the lie and plant the truth, or keep doing things the way you’ve been doing them. It’s up to you. I want to encourage you to take God at his word.
Something that I’ve also found to be amazing is that when I believe what God says about me, the outside circumstances don’t matter anymore. Some of them may improve or get worse but God’s perspective becomes the anchor for my soul and the confidence and significance he invites me to walk in becomes natural.
Sweet friend, know that you are chosen. Know that you’ve never been overlooked by the one who created you. Know that you are his and he’s not letting go! You are dearly loved and highly valuable!
Have an awesome day,